COMMUNICATION FACILITATION TO REDUCE
Facilitation” is an option for parents-in-conflict who need help
learning how to communicate and reduce the conflict, be it high or
low, court ordered or not. The Center for Divorce and Parenting,
Inc. has been offering communication facilitation to reduce conflict
for several years.
The goal of this
method is to help parents understand the nature of their conflict,
their conflict styles, why this style doesn’t work and its impact on
children. Then the parents are assisted in learning new
communication skills and techniques to reduce the conflict. The
procedure is conducted through a mediation model so that the
provider cannot testify in court, nor can her notes be subpoenaed.
The final work product can become a legally binding document if both
It is an
educationally-based model utilizing actual on-going conflicts of the
parties so that the information learned is meaningful and
practical. As the clients learn new methods of communicating, their
agreements are typed up for them so that they leave the office each
time with a protocol for ‘how to communicate’.
each client attends an ‘intake’ session (individual appointment) so
that background history can be shared with Ms. Nowak. Then the
clients participate in 2 hour joint sessions to work on the
promotion of positive communication skills. Clients should expect
to attend a minimum of 3 joint meetings. More can occur by Court
order, recommendation of the Child Family Investigator or lawyers,
at the discretion of the provider or by agreement of the parties.
Typically, most parents reach a new level of communication and
understanding of each other after 3-5 joint meetings. These can
take place over a 2 – 3 month period of time to allow the parents to
practice their methods of communicating and so they have an
opportunity to change their thinking and style of working together.
Many parents are using this model instead of the Level II class for
high conflict parents, offered by the Center for Divorce and
Parenting, Inc., as well as by others.
information contact Nancy Cohen Nowak at 303-771-5424.